When I saw this artwork posted (☝🏾☝🏾☝🏾) , I thought “YASSS. This is so true.” But it wasn’t until I started writing this caption that I realized that I had nothing to say. Zilch. Nada. Absolute nothing. I had never actually tried to change how I talk to myself. I didn’t think I needed to. But in an effort to practice what I post I thought, “What the hell? I don’t even have to put on a bra to do this. #winning.”⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
These were the first three statements that came to mind. I was surprised how easy it was to think of the things I either don’t like about myself or I need to improve. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
My “Original” Thoughts:
I could be pretty, if I wore make up.
I would be pretty, if I lost all my baby weight.
I should be pretty, but I had a baby. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Rereading these statements, I realized that I was focused on what I didn’t have versus what I did have. So I decided to try to make these into positive statements.
My 1st Revision: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I am pretty, even though I don’t wear makeup.
I am pretty, even though I haven’t lost all my baby weight.
I am pretty, even though I had a baby. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Rereading these statements, I realized that I was still being negative. I thought just adding “I am” would be enough. So then I took a minute and actually thought about being positive and trying to appreciate what I liked about myself. I began to smile as I wrote: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2nd Revision: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I am pretty without makeup.
I am pretty at my current weight.
I am pretty and I have beautiful baby. (No seriously, he’s a handsome little devil. I’m trying to be positive but I’m also trying to be honest. 😜)
Rereading these statements I felt a wave of happiness travel through my body. I was like, “Oh snap, this stuff actually works.” I was genuinely surprised in the improvement in my mood…and then I wrote “I’m not about to try out to be a Victoria Secret model.” I stopped and thought, “Hold on. Pause. That’s negative.” So I decide to focus on the positive, like how I just fit into a pair of jeans that I had not been able to fit into for the last year. Then I thought of how I had been going on walks and eating better. I was like, “Ok, I see YOU.” And I felt proud of myself. 😀
Now I can say, from experience, that this positive thinking stuff actually works. And you don’t even have to put on a bra. #winnning ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
COMMENT BELOW if you tried this, if it worked for you, and one example (if you feel comfortable) of your “original” thought and the final revision (if you needed one). I’m so excited to read these!
📷 : bykellymalka (IG)