“You’re HOT AF.”
Quick Question: When you say this out loud, do you say AF or As F**k? Personally I’m a fan of the latter…but I say LOL so what do I know?!? 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️ #31goingon13
Let’s chat about COMPLIMENTS. I love giving them, but I’m terrible at receiving them. My first thought is to reject someone’s compliment because I often don’t “see” what they are seeing. And I have 20/20 vision. with contacts. Without contacts I can’t even find my glasses. #truestory
I’m learning to FIRST take a moment to appreciate their kind words – and say “thank you!” – before I dismantle their compliment with my insecurities.
For example: Yesterday an older gentlemen told me that I had his “favorite hat of the day.” I replied, “Thank you!” But what I was really wanted to say was, “I’m only wearing this hat because I only had enough time today to brush my teeth OR my hair. For your sake, I chose my teeth.”
The irony is I LOVE giving compliments to random strangers. I’ve made it a point to tell anyone – and everyone – the beauty I see in them. Sometimes, it’s a physical attribute, like their hair or their biceps. I love me a good, well defined bicep on a woman. #goals But sometimes it’s a pregnant mom in the zoo chasing her toddler around on a hot summer day. Turns out she’s pregnant with triplets. I literally “bowed down” to her and her bad ass uterus.
I say all this to encourage you all to do 2 things:
- COMPLIMENT A STRANGER. My personal favorites are young girls, moms, and “older” individuals. But please take into consideration how your compliment will be received, especially when talking to people of the opposite sex or children. Older people are usually a safe bet, but you better make sure you either have an exit strategy or 5-7 minutes to chat. #youvebeenwarned
- THANK OTHERS WHEN THEY COMPLIMENT YOU. If you’re clumsy like me, than accepting a compliment gracefully is a challenge. So take a moment, focus on “inhaling” or internalizing the compliment, then “exhale” or respond with a “thank you.”
To some the thought of approaching strangers can be very intimidating so I would suggest starting with people with whom you share a mutual interest or association, i.e. religious gatherings, school campuses, or a friend’s birthday party.
My last piece of advice: (Give) Compliments BEFORE (Sipping or Chugging) Cocktails. 😜